I Used to be a Miserable F*ck

An everyman's guide to a meaningful life

by John Kim

  • Published: 28 Feb 2019
  • Price: 12.99
  • Extent: 256p
  • ISBN: 978-1-78072-396-9
  • Short Books territories:
    UK & C/Wealth
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A raw, refreshing, no-nonsense guide to modern manhood.

Men are not born men – and becoming a man means a hell of a lot more than getting a six pack and an office with a view. Sometimes we all need to rethink exactly who we are and what we want to be.

Deep in post-divorce soul searching, therapist John Kim did just that. He came to an astonishing realisation: he was a miserable f*ck who might just be to blame for the problems in his life. And thus began his reinvention – a period of self-reflection and self-scrutiny. He started to unpack his emotions, his drives, his successes and his failures to help him stop acting like a boy and start living like a man. And this book tells you exactly what he learned.

With his signature no-nonsense approach that will make you laugh and make you think, Kim takes you on a rough and tumble ride of exploration and discovery, creating an essential life plan for change.He offers simple steps for change: go on ‘man dates’; don’t pee in the shower (even if you think you’ll get away with it). And some take a little more soul searching: we are all flawed, not everyone can be a winner — the key is to get to know our limitations and accept them express your f*cking feelings.

Using this range of insights, Kim presents a powerful guide – self-help in a shot glass – covering essential topics from vulnerability and posturing to health and women, allowing all men to walk tall and build a life filled with purpose and passion.

About John Kim

John Kim blogs as The Angry Therapist. Frowned upon in the clinical world, he continues to look for new and unconventional ways to help people. He created the Catalyst Life Coaching Course, an online life coaching certification programme, and recently he started a new platform called SHFT, an app that gives people support in their pocket when they need it and the chance to become a life coach themselves. John Kim lives in Los Angeles where he makes videos on his phone, CrossFits, and rides his motorcycle to coffee shops to do sessions.